So I started looking at things differently. Instead of perfect, my goal is to make changes which are at least 50% better. In most scenarios in order to be worth doing, the change has to yield a 50% improvement. For some scenarios, a 50% improvement can make a giant difference! This applies to so many things. House improvements, health, art-making. Do you choose 0% improvement or 50% improvement? (NOTE to my children and descendents: Do not misunderstand me, I am not advocating doing a half-way job.) If you are kind of stuck in the doing nothing land, maybe choosing a 50% improvement is a good way to go.
This was the case with my house. I am thankful for my house. I have a nice house. But I had a mindset of "If I can't do the gut kitchen renovation job I will do nothing." Things are only getting a little settled after a family member was really ill last fall. I just didn't want any more major mayhem, because I am still recovering from that mayhem. While the kitchen was nicely designed, I hated the light sucking property of the black countertop and the dark cabinets. I hated it for TEN YEARS. Sorry, previous owners, it is/was beautiful but I need more light.
Enter the Cozy Minimalist course, which I gave myself for my birthday last spring. (I get nothing for mentioning this course, I just like Nester's site and loved the course). Because of the Cozy Minimalist course, I've started making some changes. I am slowly lightening things up, one piece at a time. This winter will be SO much lighter in my house. I'm about 1/6 of the way through painting my cabinets. If I were to do it again, I would pay someone to paint them. But I've started, so will take the kitchen a section at a time. It will be so much better! Maybe even 75%! ;-) Of course, 0% or 50% change are not the only options.
Perfection is off the table.