Living room before painting -
haven't had time to take after pictures yet!
Last year I heard Maya Angelou speak. A friend of mine had three tickets and invited me to go. It was great. I had read one of her quotes before:
"People will forget what you do,
People will forget what you say,
but they will never forget the way you make them feel."
I learned this was true last November, when I hired a consultant to help me with some home decorating questions. I did this as a treat to myself, kind of the way you will go out to a really nice restaurant and order chicken breasts even though you can cook a really nice chicken dish yourself at home. It wasn't just about the choosing of colors, it was about pampering myself. I work from home, and I decided I wanted my work environment to feel more upbeat.
When the day of the consulting came it feels all off from the get-go. First of all, I had set up a house blog for her to look at. She hadn't looked at it. So I am waiting for her to load the pictures of my blog while we're on the phone. During the course of the call I hear the words "in a perfect world" many times.
I thought, "I don't live in a perfect world, that's why I'm calling you for help. Because you advertise you know what to do in situations like this. I need to know how to make the sofa that is the color of my dog work with the 20 year old black laminate kitchen counter tops."
You know what I remember from that phone call? I felt smaller afterward. I felt that somewhere out there is a perfect world and I had missed the boat. And not only that, but I paid someone to feel that way.
So why am I writing about this? Just to say that how you make people feel in the course of their journey is important. Because sometimes it can be what encourages them to continue in their creative process.
Fast forward. I went to Stonington's, a local furniture business to replace my 18 year old couch. Cecilia, the design consultant, didn't gasp in astonishment, she entered into the spirit of it, and made the couch purchasing a fun event, even when it was not a done deal I was going to purchase from her. She took the time to ask questions about my family and the people who lived there in thinking about what might work. She understood I don't want to live in a museum. This was the exact opposite experience from my consulting call. I felt great after talking with her. How you feel does matter.
I am soldiering on in my house creativity plans. :-) I'm doing great with it!