If everything's important,
then nothing's important.
Yeah, I thought so. I like to do a lot of things. I didn't even list all the things I must do, just the things I like to do. I'm talking to myself here, but if it helps you, then great. Dixie, you can't do everything.
Life is about making choices. The constraints of our time and our space help us in making these choices. In fact, psychologists propose that constraints contribute to creativity and inventiveness. That's good news! I only have so much space and time, just like the rest of you.
Some questions to help me in my choice-making:
What will I wish I had done (next year, in five years)?
What would I do if I weren't afraid?
Which things fit with my creative personality?
Which activities are most practical for my life?
Which activities contribute to the family budget?
Some things I need to cut down on:
Playing around with the colors and backgrounds on the sites that I write for. It's fun but it doesn't necessarily make the sites function better. In five years will I wish I had made a painting instead of switching the background of a site from pale ochre to yellow?Pleasing people. I really, really, really like to encourage other people and help them. But, and this is tricky, am I ignoring the needs of my family and even myself to please another person? Sometimes the other person isn't putting forth as much effort to help themselves as I am. I'll still help people who need it, but I won't worry as much about pleasing people.The online checking loop that takes up a lot of time (ouch!)....first check email, then check news, then check facebook, then check groups, then check twitter. Then start the loop over again. Will I wish I had made a painting or created a folk doll instead of doing some of those things?
Side note. My family hates the picture above. It was taken by my photographer friend Danielle Pease. I was modeling for a project of hers about women of a certain age and what we've learned. She took a lot of great pictures that day! I was goofing around for this one. But she caught something in it because it got ALL kinds of reactions from my family. I put it on the fridge before the kids got out of school last year and my son with autism went right to the picture and threw it away even before he had his snack. It looks like the face I make when he is being told he's lost a privilege. My husband said, "Don't post that picture." My other son said I look mean. And yet here I am posting it. It's a great motivational poster for ME to hang in my studio while I do the sorting of STUFF. I mean, really, if I try to keep the 3" piece of string, do you think that woman will let me?
Are you still with me?
You're probably a friend
or family member.
Or you need to clean your slate, too.